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Code me up – Complicated
My 13 year old and I had one of our more interesting talks the other day. My kids had dragged me to a movie they love, full of…
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Tag: happy life
Body & Health
Survival is a fast car
On a recent talk the speaker asked her audience how many were “in survival mode.” One quarter of the hands went up.* I found this revelatory, not because…
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Doing it ‘nice and rough’ – Tina Turner is my kind of Buddha
I have fifteen minutes to write this. I know Buddhsim works for me, and I want to practice every day. I’ve tried apps, books, meditation retreats and everything…
Family
make all the same mistakes I did
There’s been so much discontent between us, eldest kid. Maybe this is from me trying to shield you from mistakes, preventing you from falling on your face, and…
Culture
Beyond Belief
I don’t go to church, my kids don’t either. The other day I realized that even though I don’t engage with organized religion anymore, that there are many…
Body & Health
Coping: Part II in the Working Toward Transformation series
Last post was supposed to be about forgiveness, but wound up as an angry, toxic diatribe. I’ll guess I’ll call that Part I. I’m okay with this, because…
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Praying is the last thing you should do
Now, don’t get all hating on me for this. I believe in the power of prayer. Because of prayer, perhaps some important people in my life are alive.…
Body & Health
I am my dogs
A generation ago, I had a dream, and I told my mentor about it. Black dogs are barking at me. It is depression. It looks like this (I…
Culture
on humor and malice
humor is the tendency of experiences or expression to provoke laughter and provide amusement. The term derives from the humoral medicine of the ancient Greeks, which taught that…
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Four Styles of Defining A Life
I wrote a chunk of a self-help book over a decade ago. It described the four styles people use to find — and define — meaning in their lives.…
Mommess
My poem to you
This poem is one of thanks. And it is for you. Dear friend, you are a woman of extraordinary depth. You feel. You feel for others who forget…
Family
Holiday Jealousy. On Making Cheer
I’ve got to admit, I’ve been feeling a little sorry for myself. I feel like I work really hard taking care of a thousand things, and yet, I…